1. El Impacto Emocional de la Transfobia Familiar.
La transfobia proveniente de la familia genera un profundo impacto emocional, llevando al distanciamiento y a la planificación de cortar lazos.
- Holy shit, my family love to do the thing anytime i point out transphobia where they minimize it and pretend like there’s no way anything bad will happen as things continue to get worse. Making it so i basically can’t have a relationship with them anymore.
- You're so valid for that my family did a lot of shitty things, but the second my parents' transphobia started appearing i started planning to cut them off. Like hell i was doing that to my fiance and he's leagues more important to me than they are.
- At some point in 2025 i’m considering just straight up abandoning my family and running away from my home because of shit like this. There’s only so much transphobia crap i tolerate before i eventually snap and tell her i don’t fucking love her anymore. I have to leave in the future at this rate.
2. Formas de Transfobia Familiar: Negación y Minimización.
La transfobia familiar se manifiesta de diversas maneras, incluyendo la negación de la identidad trans, el uso incorrecto de pronombres y nombres, y la minimización del impacto de la transfobia.
- Cw: transphobia, the reaction we got, for those curious, was our family reminding us that we will never be accepted as a girl. This was, in our opinion, meant to be a moment of celebration. It just feels rotten to have the moment ruined for us.
- My mom told me once that i'm an abomination that's spitting in the face of god and i just assume most transphobia is based around something that i have no control over making somebody act irrational.
- Just cut off my mother due to transphobia. Deadnameing, mis-gendering,asking about my genitals, saying i'll never be a real woman unless i have bottom surgery etc. She said for her to respect my gender i had to beg her & be nice about it. Fuck that! i refused. I will never beg for my identity.
3. La Lucha por la Aceptación y el Apoyo Familiar.
A pesar de la transfobia, algunas personas experimentan cambios positivos en sus familias, con miembros que aprenden y se vuelven más comprensivos y solidarios.
- My father and mother are both transphobic, though lessening their transphobia as i've showed them i'm still me. Even with their weird conservative values they knew the threat that trump posed. They both called me at separate times asking me if i was going to be okay, and if they can provide help.
- When my cousin came out a trans, my mom was very transphobic about him. I kept reinforcing his choice, and eventually, my mom came around and is now fine with him. Now, more than ever, it's so important that we steer fence sitters and people who lean terfy away from full-on transphobia.
- Had an amazing phone call with my dad yesterday about what trans means and the reality of what trans people face, and he *gets* it. Won't go into detail, but this dude is in his 80s and apologized for not understanding in the past in a way that showed he really understood now the harm of transphobia.
4. Transfobia Internalizada y la Búsqueda de Validación.
La transfobia internalizada, producto de la discriminación familiar y social, puede generar dudas y dificultades en la autoaceptación.
- "you chose to be a transsexual.” the therapist who fired me says i have internalized transphobia. If that's so, that quote is why. Mom believes i could've just stayed her son and been a pervert in private. I don't know if she's heard of autogynephilia, but she'd absolutely say i have it. 4/5.
- I don't talk a lot about my identity publicly yet, but damn my father's casual transphobia is hitting me like a brick today on my periodical family visit. Can you all reply anything positive or send pet pics please, i'm tired of never getting validated in my life by family.
5. La Importancia de la Comunidad y el Apoyo Externo.
Ante la falta de apoyo familiar, la comunidad y las redes de apoyo externas se vuelven cruciales para la salud mental y el bienestar de las personas trans.
- I’m so protective of my trans family. I don’t play bout them at all. Don’t tolerate transphobia, casual or blatant, from anybody. Queer ppl nor straight ppl. I’ve ended friendships behind it, stopped talking to family, too. Zero tolerance. Transphobia is violence and i don’t condone it.
- The *only* people who don't like me in my spouse's family are: 1) our abusers and their vassals, or 2) bigots by any creed. Transphobia is a little too easy rn and it usually leads to 1. Your so doing this is in line w/ isolation/gaslight/wreck self-esteem cycles typical with domestic abuse.
- One of my best friends called me late last night. I took the call worried he was having some problems, but it turned out he'd been worrying about me because of all the transphobia he sees online. We ended up talking for 2.5 hrs. I'm blessed to have a friend who cares like that.