1. El Primer Acto de Violencia: La Mutilación Emocional.
La idea más recurrente es la cita de bell hooks que define el primer acto de violencia del patriarcado no como una agresión hacia las mujeres, sino como una exigencia a los hombres para que anulen sus propias emociones, un acto de "automutilación psíquica".
- "the first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves." — bell hooks.
- “patriarchy demands of men that they become and remain emotional cripples. It is a system that denies men full access to their freedom of will.” - bell hooks.
- Bell hooks pointed out decades ago that the patriarchy forces men and boys to cut themselves off from their feelings in order to be seen as "real men." that's a real harm, not just to them, but to everyone around them.
2. Un Sistema, No un Género.
Se enfatiza que el patriarcado es un sistema social y político sostenido tanto por hombres como por mujeres. Las citas aclaran que el problema no son los hombres en sí, sino la estructura patriarcal en la que todos participan.
- “despite the contemporary visionary feminist thinking that makes clear that a patriarchal thinker need not be a male, most folks continue to see men as the problem of patriarchy. That is simply not the case. Women can be as wetted to patriarchal, thinking and action as men.” -bell hooks.
- To quote bell hooks, "patriarchy has no gender." as she says, it's a mistake to ascribe it all to men. Without the women who work alongside men to defend and uphold it, patriarchy would fall.
- “we need to highlight the role women play in perpetuating and sustaining patriarchal culture .we will recognize patriarchy as a system women and men support equally, even if men receive more rewards from that system” bell hooks.
3. La Crisis de la Masculinidad Patriarcal.
Las discusiones distinguen entre la masculinidad y la "masculinidad patriarcal". Se argumenta que el feminismo no es una amenaza para los hombres, sino una crítica a un sistema que los perjudica y limita su humanidad.
- "the crisis facing men is not the crisis of masculinity, it is the crisis of patriarchal masculinity. Until we make this distinction clear, men will continue to fear that any critique of patriarchy represents a threat." -bell hooks.
- Reading bell hooks is an eye opening patriarchy pressures men to equate masculinity with dominance and emotional distance “patriarchy demands of men that they become and remain emotional cripples” feminism, to her, is not anti-male men and boys, just like women, are victims of patriarchy too.
- I really like bell hooks, tbh i never understood where that 'all feminists gate men's thing comes from. A lot of the feminist stuff i've read talks about how patriarchy harms men as well as women. (although admittedly in different ways).
4. "The Will to Change": Hacia la Sanación y el Amor.
El libro de bell hooks "The Will to Change" es citado frecuentemente como una guía para que los hombres se liberen del patriarcado. Propone que los hombres no pueden cambiar sin nuevos modelos y que el feminismo ofrece las herramientas para aprender el arte de amar.
- “looking at the reasons patriarchy has maintained its power over men and their lives, i urge us to reclaim feminism for men… men cannot change if there are no blueprints for change. Men cannot love if they are not taught the art of loving.” - bell hooks disrupttexts reading.
- My husband and i are listening to the audio book called "the will to change - men, masculinity and love" by bell hooks. It really is an interesting idea - that patriarchy does not serve men or women very well. Men are damaged by it, too, and are needed to lead the change for everyone to benefit.
- “boys need healthy self-esteem. They need love. And a wise and loving feminist politics can provide the only foundation to save the lives of male children. Patriarchy will not heal them. If that were so they would all be well.” -bell hooks (feminism is for everybody: passionate politics).
5. El Patriarcado como Parte de una Dominación Mayor.
Finalmente, se presenta la conceptualización más amplia de bell hooks: el "patriarcado capitalista supremacista blanco imperialista". Esta frase subraya cómo el patriarcado se entrelaza con otros sistemas de opresión como el racismo y el capitalismo, formando una estructura de dominación integral.
- "often in my lectures when i use the phrase 'imperialist white-supremacist capitalist patriarchy' to describe our nation's political system, audiences laugh. No one has ever explained why accurately naming this system is funny. The laughter is itself a weapon of patriarchal terrorism." —bell hooks.
- “capitalism & patriarchy together, as structures of domination, have worked overtime to undermine & destroy [the] larger unit of extended kin. Replacing the family community with a more privatized small autocratic unit helped increase alienation & made abuse of power more possible.”-bell hooks.
- Bell hooks explains how white supremacy, imperialism, capitalism and patriarchy are interlocking systems of domination that define our reality. Blackhistorymonth bellhooks.