1. El Patriarcado como Origen de la Soledad Masculina.
La idea central es que la soledad masculina no es un fenómeno aislado ni culpa del feminismo, sino una consecuencia directa del sistema patriarcal que perjudica tanto a hombres como a mujeres.
- The patriarchy hurts men as much as does women. And nothing makes that clearer than this “male loneliness epidemic.”.
- I feel like people who think the idea that there's a male loneliness epidemic is anti-feminist are missing the part where the male loneliness epidemic is a direct result of patriarchy.
- Or… and hear me out… male loneliness is a core feature of patriarchy. Patriarchal expects men to suppress their feelings.
- The source of “male loneliness” is the patriarchy btw. All of this is describing the functions of the patriarchy and how it builds men into monsters.
2. Mecanismos Patriarcales: Represión Emocional y Aislamiento.
El patriarcado impone normas de comportamiento que impiden a los hombres mostrar vulnerabilidad, expresar emociones o construir amistades profundas, viéndose unos a otros como competidores y generando un aislamiento inevitable.
- The patriarchy tells men that we should be strong and never lean on friends and family for support or show vulnerability, which inevitably leads to isolation and loneliness.
- Patriarchy is responsible for male loneliness. Every man is an island and many can only understand other men as competitors.
- I actually do think it's more than that - patriarchy creates situations where men do not feel comfortable talking about their emotions unless it's in an approved situation (usually a relationship with a heterosexual woman) which naturally leads to loneliness, because they don't have real friends.
- The male loneliness epidemic is actually just the patriarchy stopping men from forming meaningful friendships and connections, but since women are now people they cant even trap someone socially and force them to be their friend.
3. La Culpa Mal Atribuida y la Narrativa Errónea.
Se critica la tendencia a culpar a las mujeres o al feminismo por la soledad masculina. Esta narrativa a menudo confunde la soledad con la falta de acceso sexual o romántico, ignorando la causa raíz del problema.
- Problem is many of these men assume that "loneliness" is everyone else's (esp. Women's) fault, rather than that of their adherence to outdated gender norms and inability to be vulnerable.
- Men always try to do this and then when we tell them why we don't like them it's "women are to blame for men being lonely". No your own patriarchy is why.
- It's also that the framing of "male loneliness crisis" tends to put the onus onto women not giving men enough sexual attention instead of dealing with the root cause of how patriarchy teaches men to be emotionally isolated...
- They conflate “loneliness” with the offputting feelings they have when “denied” the romantic & sexual access to women that patriarchy promised them.
4. La Solución Propuesta: Desmantelar el Patriarcado.
La solución recurrente para la soledad masculina y sus problemas derivados es el desmantelamiento del patriarcado y el capitalismo. Se argumenta que el feminismo ofrece las herramientas para que los hombres se liberen de estas normas dañinas.
- In most of those issues, solving patriarchy is still the solution, though.
- The “male loneliness epidemic” is perpetuated—not by feminism—but by patriarchy. It comes from how we are told to hide our emotions; we are told to hide them by the same people complaining about it. Systemically the solution is feminism, individually the solution is better friendships.
- The question is : there is a male loneliness epidemic, now what ? i don’t know. Maybe… dismantle the patriarchy ?
- So color me skeptical of any "cure" for the "male loneliness epidemic" that isn't "abolish patriarchy (and capitalism).".