1. El Patriarcado como Sistema de Poder Sexual.
El patriarcado se manifiesta en la sexualidad como una estructura de poder y conquista, donde el sexo se enmarca en términos de dominación y sumisión, y el placer y la autonomía de las mujeres son sistemáticamente devaluados o controlados.
- The idea that sex is taken/given, that someone does the fucking and someone is fucked—that’s patriarchy. It’s setting it up as competition and conquest, a zero-sum game: someone has to “lose” in order for someone else to “win.”.
- Patriarchy is about denying women autonomy, humanity, and consent the fact that people can't tell the difference is in fact the problem.
- Sex, possession, and hierarchy are so tightly wound up under patriarchy that it leaves no room for intimacy or humanity.
- Because patriarchy dictates that women aren't even supposed to admit to having sexual desire, let alone enjoying sex with one or more partners. Sex is something that men do *to a woman.not *with a woman.
- In any patriarchal system far too much about sex and sexuality involves coercion. No one is free in this regard until we dismantle the patriarchy.
2. Kink, Deseo y la Sombra del Patriarcado.
Existe un debate sobre si las prácticas sexuales como la sumisión y el BDSM refuerzan las dinámicas patriarcales o si pueden ser una forma de explorar el poder de manera consensuada. Muchos argumentan que los deseos están inevitablemente moldeados por la cultura patriarcal, pero que reprimir estos anhelos no contribuye a la liberación.
- Everyone's sexuality is compromised by the culture of patriarchy we all live and breathe. You can have a discussion about why people find this sexy from a feminist perspective, but the moment you start policing desire and getting upset with women for finding this sexy you've lost the plot.
- Agreed submissive feminine sexuality does not reinforce patriarchy patriarchy is about denying women autonomy, humanity, and consent.
- A certain strain of feminism accuses things like d/s and sadomasochism of being entirely invented by patriarchy to indoctrinate women, on the assumption that nobody could authentically enjoy them.
- One of the best tricks patriarchy ever pulled was getting y'all to eroticize your own oppression and then actively resist unpacking your patriarchal baggage because then it might not be "hot" anymore.
- It's a kink thing, it's just that patriarchy is their kink. This is why they accuse people of projecting their kinks onto other people and of grooming children; that's what they're doing.
3. Control y Cosificación: La Sexualidad Femenina como Herramienta Patriarcal.
Un tema central es cómo el patriarcado reduce a las mujeres a objetos sexuales, controlando su autonomía y valorándolas principalmente por su disponibilidad sexual. Esta dinámica se manifiesta en la doble moral que simultáneamente sexualiza y avergüenza a las mujeres por su sexualidad.
- The hypocrisy of patriarchy is portraying women as sexual objects while simultaneously shaming women for being sexual.
- Men objectifying and dehumanizing women they want to fuck is a straightforward description of patriarchy from the beginning.
- Under the patriarchy, women aren't people. Merely a sexual commodity.
- The formula for patriarchy is to tell men to deny their sexual urges while also stoking the notion of women as both prize and status symbol. Then patriarchy charges women with the duty of gatekeeping their sexuality, linking it to their value and social status.
- We treat women more often than anyone else as sexual objects for the gratification of others, and in a patriarchy we can say that the default gaze here is a male one.
4. Resistencia y Liberación Sexual.
Las discusiones también exploran formas de resistencia, desde redefinir la propia sexualidad hasta la idea de que el placer femenino es una amenaza para el sistema. Sin embargo, existe escepticismo sobre si las elecciones sexuales individuales pueden desmantelar una estructura sistémica tan arraigada.
- That's what the patriarchy fears; women defining our own sexuality.
- Can you imagine what incredible sex we would all be having if it weren't patriarchy and its inherent rape culture, coercion, hierarchy and antiquated gender roles?
- You cannot destroy the patriarchy, you cannot destroy the male-female hierarchy, by using sex. Sex only reinforces it.
- At some point, we got it into our heads that if we dress, love, and fuck in the right ways, we're can screw (or not-screw!) our way out of patriarchy. And . No, not really. Your individual sexcapades won't really do much.
- Love and sex between women is antithetical to patriarchy. Be wary of reactionaries that try to restrict f/f to being pure and palateable and assimilationist.